K-I-S-S-I-N-G!
we already figured that out, trisha. you didn't have to tell us. hahaha. according to facebook, pattycakes HAS a girlfriend. is it YOU??
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Ha! Well, this is pretty adorable news.
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oooo do share details how a long distance relationship works. i tried and failed once.
yes, adorable news indeed. juvenation as a dating site! yeeesssssssssssssssssssssss.
[quote user="C"]oooo do share details how a long distance relationship works. i tried and failed once. [/quote]
Every relationship I've been in has been long distance. It's kind of normal for me. Baltimore trumps them all though hahaha! After the last one I said I would never be in a long distance relationship ever again. Never say never :o)
What did I get myself into? lol!
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*GASP*
I'd have gotten away with it too if it weren't for you meddling kids!
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Scooby Doo, where are you??
you got yourself into pat. he seems like a handful. good luck ;o)
It is difficult finding someone who understands diabetes, and I have tried to not bring it up at first. With the pump and BG kit, along with cell phone, it is hard to not see all the stuff I carry around with me.
In my case I have other stuff I have to explain with the celiac desease, "Uh, sorry we can't meet at XYZ Pizza joint, I can only eat their salads there..." or "Beer isn't good for me, how about some water..."
Even though I went through adolescence with diabetes, I have yet to find a good way of bringing either of these up. I guess that is why I am still single.
hey, jonathan. i have diabetes and celiac disease. i don't usually bring either of them up (or at least i don't avoid the topic). i suggest places to eat - it doesn't really seem to bother anyone i have to eat special foods, they understand the idea of "food allergies". i also don't drink (personal choice), but i will still go to bars and just drink water or diet pop. in iowa, there are LOTS of places catering to celiacs so finding a place with a gluten-free menu hasn't been an issue for me. the diabetes usually comes out when people start asking me about my career choice, or what i want to do after i finish school. i very strongly feel if you are comfortable with your own diabetes, the other person will be comfortable too. i never make it big deal out of it, and i keep it well controlled, so it doesn't take a front seat in any of my relationships. i may be single now, but i guarantee it's not because of diabetes or celiac :o) be comfortable with yourself.
C,
It isn't that I am uncomfortable with either disease. My family and friends could all say that I am very comfortable with every curve ball I have been given so far in this great game we call life. Both are just another obstacles and information about myself that I have to come clean on at some point in a relationship. I live in Kansas City and there are numerous GF choices, and I have a hard time lying or even exaggerating the truth on things.
I also do not drink, only about 4 times a year. This is a personal choice only because as we all know alcohol really screws up the BG. I myself would rather say because of my diabetes, as if I was told this I would think the person is a recovering alcholoic. I have personal experiance in my family with alchololism and that would be another reason I do not drink, and know what it can do to a person.
I guess I am too open about myself and my choices and opinions, this could be considered both good and bad. In my case I guess it is considered bad and for now I don't really care that I am single and not looking for Ms Right for JC. Maybe someday I will change my opinion on the whole relationship thing, but for now I have other priorities I have to focus on and that is not even on the stove.
Definitely good to hear, Jonathan. I probably just misinterpreted your last post (it's impossible to tell tone of voice or emotion on the internet). I am an alcoholic, which is why I don't drink. Again, I don't usually bring it up, but if someone asks I'll tell them. I always figure honesty works best mostly because I'm a truly horrific liar (which is also the reason I can never 'prank' someone because I can't keep a straight face). :o) I'm happy to hear you're doing well and have your own priorities set. Whatever works for you is best. Good luck!
I have been dating the same girl now for about 6 years, and she didn't know I was a Diabetic for about 4 months into our dating. I am still on the old school way of doing things (i still take shots). The challenge for me was excusing myself before dinner or something to the restroom to take the shot. I never really intentionally hid it, but I guess from previous experiences I did it anyway. She had no problem with it when she found out. I find that most people know somebody nowadays who has it, and know a little something about it. With my age most people think I have type II though.
My experience was I got picked on as a little girl, and it always ended up that the boy that I liked thought I had a contagious disease and was "gross". Mind you I was always the most friendly and outgoing kid around and always wanted to be everybody's friend and be liked. It crumbled my world to go through that at such an impressionable age. So as I grew up I would hide that I had diabetes. I wouldn't test. I wouldn't take my shots (unless in the privacy of my home). And eventually started paying the price for it. I never told guys I dated until I thought it was getting serious and I would give them and ultimatum, you can stay with me and understand it or if it scares you, you should leave now. As I got older and the relationships were more mature and serious, I began to tell them that I could be facing complications, including not being able to have children. As I look back on it now, I have a feeling that some may have ended becuase they didn't want to face/deal with my life. But I wised up and realized those guys just weren't worth my time. As I got my pump and had more "intimate" relationships, the couple guys seemed to be very open with my diabetes and the fact that I was attached to a device. They however did not stick around. It ended up being my husband, the very man that coached me and soothed me through the hard parts of this disease and the one who just recently told me he will follow the diabetic eating regiment. Like counting carbs and deciding how much he should "correct" for what he is eating.
Long story short, hang in there!! There is the perfect person for you out there. A person who will understand and learn with you. Be yourself when you start dating someone new. You wouldn't go up to a new co-worker and say "Hi, my name is Nikki and I am a diabetic", correct? So why go into dating someone that way. Pardon yourself from the dinner table if your are shy about testing and correcting. Or if you are more open, do it and let them ask. You will soon find out what their intentions are with your relationship. We are who we are and that can't be changed, masked, or hidden. Embrace it and pursue your dreams!
Hey Mark,
After nearly 40 years of T1, I can say the following: You are what you are. Diabetes is NOT a terrible disease [ it's a huge pain] , but if someone does not respect you for who you are - they'll never respect you for the work we all do to keep in good health as diabetics.
When dating, I have always been honest about myself - diabetes is NOT scary - it just is. I do everything anyone else can or wants to do - I use use a neat device (pump) to help control a condition. I have found partners who are sincere are interested - those that are not - I really don't have time for anyway.
Good luck to you!