I was just curious, how many of you have ever dated another juvenile diabetic? I think it would be AWESOME. I've never found anyone with T1 who was single, my age and ready to mingle. I think it would be great for me, I need someone to constantly nudge me and remind me to take care of myself. I get really lazy sometimes and I think having that extra push could be a beautiful thing, especially since you both know what the other is going through :)
Any positives or negatives on the issue?
this has been discussed a few times and even a few members on this forum are dating/were dating each other!
i personally, don't think i could do it. it would be a reason for me NOT to date someone. i'm too opinionated and i dont get along with other D's as well as i should/could.
I have thought about it, and think it would be fun. My current gf isn't diabetic, but her dad was a T1 and her mom's a T2, so she feels like its inevitable that she'll get it one day. Because of that, we do talk about diabetes a lot, and she helps me guess when carb counting at restaurants.
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But a down side to dating a diabetic, in the long run, is that our kids will be more likely to get it.
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even if both parents are diabetic, there's less than a 10% chance of your kids developing it too. so not too many worries on that front :o)
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But a down side to dating a diabetic, in the long run, is that our kids will be more likely to get it.
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even if both parents are diabetic, there's less than a 10% chance of your kids developing it too. so not too many worries on that front :o)
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No, but its one way that I view diabetes as kind of "contagious" in a way. It wouldn't stop me, but it's still something to keep in mind. But that's just me.
Ehh... I don't think I would want to do it. I live with diabetes in myself everyday. I think about it all of the time. I think that I would have a hard time dealing with it in someone else too. My fiance has health problems of his own, and I'm perfectly fine with that. I think that we are both more compassionate towards each other because neither of us are in perfect health. If we both had T1, though, I think that it would be a main topic of conversation, we would have a closet full of diabetic supplies..... I'd rather not. :-)
It goes without saying, though, that T1's are a great group of people! :-)
I have. It's great because they really do understand what you are going through. It's funny when you are low at the same time and both just chugging juice. I would say it's not a good reason to date or not date someone. It's more important to share other life things in common.... interests, etc.
My husband and I are both type 1 diabetics. I was diagnosed about a year and a half ago whereas he's been diagnosed for almost 20 years. He was actually the one who realized what was wrong with me and rushed me to the hospital. It's nice having that one person that you love and are close to being able to totally understand what you are going through. Before I was diagnosed my husband would always explain how a low blood sugar or high blood sugar felt but I didn't truly understand how it felt until I was going through it myself. Having my husband there to help and support me during that first year made my life sooo much easier. However, I know that for him it was difficult to see me go through that and to know that I would have type 1 diabetes for life. However, now we actually have contests to see who's blood sugars and A1C's are better. It's not easy but I know that I've been able to get through it because of the love and support of my husband. I don't know what I would do without him.
I am the only T1 in my marriage and have never dated another diabetic (other than as a kid at diabetes camp, but I don't think that counts). I wish that my husband could live as a T1 for a period of time, to gain more of an understanding of what we go through, our challenges and our trials. He is so very supportive, but just doesn't quite understand my lows and my highs. He also doesn't understand what I really should be eating or correcting. I'd also want him to wear a pump for a while to see what it feels like.
So long story short, I could see it being a cool thing to date someone with diabetes. But at the same time it may not be a good idea. I would be totally annoyed if I dated someone who was more nerotic about their diabetes and told me what I should or should not be doing.
Good luck to all of you who are still dating! : )
I'll offer my 2 cents. I never have dated another person with diabetes (T1 or T2). As a young adult I thought about it as I did not think I would be understood and as a young child with T1 I always felt "odd" and different. As I began to come to accept my T1 in my late teens and early 20's, I realized that what I wanted was an independent partner, not someone that I could associate with by empathy alone. No one could EVER know what my diabetes does to me better than I do -- so that is my individual space that I share with other strong people who may or may not have any problems,
I have always been drawn to compassionate and understanding women and friends, They quickly know that I am diabetic and typically I feel "admired" because of the effort I (we) but into every minute of our lives to stay well.
That said, I would date a T1, so long as they did not expect me to own theirher problems.
Scott
I've often wanted to date someone whose a T1 Diabetic because then I wouldn't be alone. I have always felt alone ever since diagnosis. Then I went through the whole "What if my kid gets Diabetes?! What did I GIVE them. What did my partner give them!?" Because my father was a T2 Diabetic, [I used to give him his shots, p r i c k his finger, because I was wanting to learn all about Diabetes at the age of 4 - 10, he passed away from cancer when I was 11.] his Biological father was a T1 Diabetic there's the thoughts that in the future my brother could become a Diabetic since it runs in the family. My father's aunt and cousin are Diabetics, and my father's step-mother was a Diabetic. I've lived with ENOUGH Diabetes in my 25 years, that I want freedom! I don't want to have to be tied down to someone who has the illness I have when I'm tied down to it myself. Granted, I don't let it stop me because I've been through so much in 25 years I've fought my way into this world, and I will fight my way out with a huge bang I just want to live a happy life in a loving relationship with someone who will accept me for me, and not because I have D. Because we'd have something "in common" rather then the personalities and love. Now, if a partner came along down the road and I found out they were a T1 and we connected so well that D wasn't the whole conversation? Then sure, can't control who we love, but we can control our illnesses, and I am controlling it now, by not even dating, going on with life, and just being me.
I have never dated someone who was diabetic, but my boyfriend gives me that nudge to take care of myself that us diabetics sometimes need. I wrote about him and his support in my blog about life with type 1. Check it out
www.iamjuvenated.blogspot.com