About a month a go I posted that I was pregnant. I couldn't have been more excited. And now I am saddened to say that I misscarried this week :( I started spotting and we went to the ER, where they diagnosed me with a threatened miscarrige. I was supposed to be 9 1/2 wks and the baby was measuring 6w6d and they couldn't find a heartbeat. Two days later I m/c at home. I am so devestated. I feel like my family is secretly thinking it is because of my diabetes, and now I can't help but wonder the same. I prepared so much to get pregnant and thought I was in such good control-my A1C has been at 6.0 for the past 4-5 months. And got all the OK's from my doctors. I just feel like a failure :( I know m/c is so common and even the doctor told me it probably had nothing to do with my diabetes. I want a baby so bad, but I just can't imagine going through this heartache again. How did any of you that have had m/c get the courage and strength to try again? Sorry for the depressing post I just needed to get some stuff off my mind.
I'm so sorry... Stay strong
My dear Lisa-
Nothing anyone will say will take away that pain and desperation feeling. I had a miscarriage last October. I was 6 weeks along and they couldn't find the heartbeat so I waited another week and went back and still no heartbeat. I decided to wait it out and three weeks later I finally passed the baby. I too was devastated. My aunt told my sister that she really thought it was a bad idea for me to get pregnant because I was diabetic so that made me even more angry especially when my genetic specialist told me that when you are this early on your A1C would have to be in the 10-12% range for them to link it to diabetes. I was more upset that I had told EVERYONE I was pregnant and then now when they asked me how I was feeling I had to say that I lost the baby. That was miserable, that and watching my husband cry. I got on the pump and started to focus on my fitness. I decided that I wanted to look killer in a bikini this summer, but every month after that I got my period I cried :) It took four months of actively trying. I am currently 9 weeks pregnant and scared out of my mind that I am going to go through this again. I have seen the heartbeat and watched it move but I refuse to let myself be attached to him/her. We haven't told anyone except family. I have no morning sickness and of course that scares me too. I just try my best, pray for me and the little one and let god take over. I guess the hardest part has been to let go and realize that some things I have NO control over. If you look around everyone is "perfect", the body makes perfect people...it knows when something isn't right chromosomally. It still sucks but your body is doing what it is made for. Proof that it is functioning "normal"...something us diabetics aren't used to hearing :) Mourn for your baby, but realize that you will be a mommy so soon...try to distract yourself with books, shopping, movies, massages, pedicures and hey have that beer or wine :) Take some cold medicine get crazy. IF you ever need to talk or vent please feel free :)
I'm so sorry you lost your baby. Unfortunately miscarriages are fairly common for anyone in the first 12 weeks. Unless you were doing something crazy with your diabetes (constant extreme highs or lows) then it didn't have anything to do with your miscarriage.
On this website I've read posts from multiple women who had pregnancies with and without good control. Many diabetics had healthy pregnancies before glucose meters or insulin pumps or modern insulins were available. Diabetes won't stop you from being a mom.
People have a lot of wrong ideas about pregnancy and diabetes. Try to forgive your family and just live your life. Take care. -Jenna
Thank you for the kind words ladies. Every day gets easier. I just have to trust that God has a plan that I have no control over. We have decided to wait the recommended 2mnths and then give it another try :) I will keep you posted.
I'm sorry to hear about this. A few years ago, I had a miscarriage when I was 13 weeks along. It takes a long time to get over something like this, and everyone heals differently. Don't let anyone tell you how you should grieve, and allow yourself to do so.