I am a mom of an 11 year old girl recently diagnosed with type one. As an already over protective mother I’m finding it very hard to get my worrying and anxiety under control. I don’t want her to see and feel my concern on a constant basis. Does this get better?
As a person with T1D I have constant worry and anxiety too. Some days seem easier than others. Something that helped me was therapy, I wished I had gotten help in the beginning though. It took me 5 years after my diagnosis to finally realize I needed it. It may be a good idea to help you get your feelings out and anxiety under better control.
My son was diagnosed almost two years ago to the day. I still worry everyday. Every minute, and sometimes every second. However, there are moments when I feel like I can “do this.” And then there are the sad and scary moments when I want to give up, but knowing there’s no such, you just “keep swimming.”
I’ll keep your daughter in my thoughts, and stay positive! Your daughter needs to see that you are her strength. She needs to rely on your capability and your power as a mama! xx
hello @Nicolesbasil, you will get very familiar with all the new language and testing and insulin. You will eventually be better at treating your daughter’s diabetes that your current CDE and endo. the anxiety? I don’t know. If you didn’t have any anxiety before her diagnosis then yes, if you always had trouble then maybe not… the thing to consider is, is this anxiety affecting your well being? You can’t hide it from her, 11 year olds are very perceptive. I had general anxiety problems and therapy helped me quite a bit.
“I’ve had a lot of worries in my life, most of which never happened.” - Mark Twain
talking about it helps too, we are here to help.
I’m sure my mom knows what you’re going through. I was only 14 when I was diagnosed and my mom was constantly worrying. She would often go into my blood sugar meter and review my numbers… pretty much daily Once she was watching me (I was a cheerleader) at a basketball game when I was in high school, noticed that I looked pale, checked my meter, and ran to get me something to eat because she saw my sugar was low at lunch time. You’ll always worry about your daughter, it’s your motherly instinct as my mom always said. You just have to give her more of your trust and hopefully she makes you proud good luck!
you have received some great responses to your question and concern. I would say that as a person of 42 years with T one I struggled in my early teenage years to come to terms with being different than everybody else so it seemed.
My mother was also very over caring; she would weigh all of my food and constantly be vigilant and taking care of me.
I’m sure as an adult you know that you can read your parents feelings very well. For me being a teenager was stressful enough much less having my mothers concerns were a monumental overload.
So I did with every good teenager should do I rebuild, I stayed away from home, I did not want to be in her site because I wanted to make my own decisions.
Give her the tools she needs so she can be her own best advocate and know what to do and nowhere to go when she needs help.
I think you should get help for yourself so that you could reduce your stress and know that she will be okay. I have three boys and none of them have you developed type one but I would dread the day that I have to witness that and with your very guilty and have a lot of remorse. But I would also look them know that they can live a good long life if they follow simple directions and monitor their blood sugar. And I would probably go see a therapist!
I am the mom of a type 1 diabetic teenager who was diagnosed at the age of 12. Reading your post brought back a flood of memories. First of all it will get better. You are very overwhelmed right now as is your daughter. It took us almost a year to get into a rhythm of the highs and lows of the disease. The 1 thing I constantly tell myself is that she is a teenage girl first and foremost! We make the disease 2nd to that. She attends pizza parties, enjoys sweets, sleepovers, and everything else in a teenagers life. We have surrounded ourselves with wonderful doctors who listened to our frustrations and sometimes helped us figure out an answer. I will stop for now but let me know of any specifics you may have. Take 1 meal/snack at a time!!
The first year is rough. A whole bunch of ‘firsts’ to get through… 1st Christmas, Halloween, back to school, baseball game… whatever. It’s tough. Just when you think you have it under control something else pops up. Hang in there. It will get to a point where it isn’t diabetes 24/7 in your mind. It won’t go away. It will always require a bit extra forethought and planning, but it does get better.
Hi! I am the mother of a 10 year old girl that was diagnosed on April 22 of this year. I don’t have a lot of advice to give, but just wanted to reach out to someone that is going through what I am going through at the same time. Sometimes it helps to know that you aren’t the only one. I also worry constantly about her and I worry that I am not doing anything right. I will keep you and your daughter in my prayers.
Hi! My 7 year old little girl was diagnosed on March 24. I diagnosed her myself that morning. We also have been struggling. I am constantly worrying about my daughter and often wonder when this will get easier. It’s nice to know we are not alone in this matter. I will keep you and your daughter in my thoughts and prayers. Just remember this will make us and our children stronger.
HI everyone, I just found out on June 17th that my 6 year old has T1D and Im pretty worried as you guys are/were! How is your situations now a few months later? Any tips for a new mom to T1D?? Also, did anyone of your kids have a protruded tummy due to inflamed internal organs like kidney/liver? My daughter’s seemed to be very swollen…they said it was rare, but just wanted to see if u guys noticed anything in your kids. What are some tips to help you better manage/balance this in your life? Thanks. Prayers all around!