My son was diagnosed 6 years ago at 9 years old. He is very active playing football, wrestling and golf in high school. He strives to get good grades. But I know he is struggling with his health and because he is growing he is eating all the time. He doesn’t make good choices as he has a big sugar tooth. His A1C is 9.4 which is WAY too high but Childrens Hosp says that puberty plays a big part of that. My son also admits to eating without checking his blood but he will just guess a dosage so he will take insulin but not check his numbers or he will just not check or dose but we know after we go to bed he is sneaking to the kitchen to eat and I am sure not dosing for it. He is on the omnipod and we actually have a dexcom but he doesn’t want to wear it because its one more thing that can get ripped off during sports and I think he feels everyone is kind of used to his pod but if he adds one more thing he will have to educate them or worry they think he is sicker or getting worse. I am not sure what is going through his mind at times but he has uttered the horrible words of " I wanna kill myself". He is finally open to counseling so I am working on getting a therapist but his sport schedule is everyday after school. He WONT miss his sports so getting appointments is difficult. I freak out of course after he says that and he says he’s just kidding but we all know that is something you don’t kid about. I have heard the statistics of teens with T1 and suicide and that is terrifying to me.
I am trying to find the balance of helping my son and determining if this is regular teen stuff or diabetic issues. I know when he is crabby I ask him to check his blood and that can make him more upset.
He is a happy boy most of the time and loves to hunt, fish, be with his friends. He has always been a momma’s boy but he is growing up. He recently has been talking with a girl and I asked him if she knew he had T1 and he said yes so I think that is a good sign he is open about it. I am typically the one who informs his coaches. He did do a presentation on T1 to his class when he was in 7th grade. That was really good.
I know he still doesn’t like to check his blood in front of his peers. He wants to be like everyone else and I tell him he is and he can do whatever they do.
Looking for some advice on how to talk to him to open up to me.
I have thought about restricting him going to driving school until he takes control of his numbers and getting his A1C down to healthy levels but then on the other hand I think that is terrible. I want him to care because its so heartbreaking to know he is hurting himself in the long term. He has told me he won’t live long anyway. EVERY single commercial about drugs or diabetes is terrible. T1’s hear all the time what could happen to them. I am just sad and want to make the best example and provide the most support while I still have him under my roof. He will be 16 Jan 31st. I have 2 years. Advice? Jen