Grief and Diabetes

I recently lost my mother, one of the closest relationships I had in the whole world. Is grief more profound for a diabetic? Omg, some days I am struggling to a profound degree.

Sorry to hear about your mother.

I experience a wild ride of randomness in my blood sugars during something unfavorable emotionally. I do anything I can to keep a level head. Walking to me seems to calm a lot of things and make other things easier to deal with. I remember going through some things and forcing myself to get out and walk. After I did I was glad I made the decision. A bit of a break in the day/situation and time to reflect in thoughts.

Great advice, Zero, thanks. I know I should be walking more (and I live in a wonderfully walkable neighborhood!), but some days I’m completely dysfunctional. And then other days I’m able to get out. But I appreciate the reminder, and will make sure to get out tomorrow. :slight_smile:

Sorry for your loss
I think it might depend what age diagnosed and other factors, but my experience is yes it sure seems like some pretty strong emotions over loss, no doubt PWD have a daily struggle that most people aren’t aware of, and BG fluctuations certainly effect mood and mood effects BG. Maybe we are lucky to have an insight into what it means to struggle a bit, sometimes a lot!
I agree, if you can get out and walk, it will make a difference. Breathe and do your best.

I’m so sorry for your loss. I think we T1’s definitely experience more issues with grief. The obvious one is that emotional stress wreaks havoc with our BG, so it’s important to check it more often. Of course, that stress also causes us to lose focus, so it can be helpful to set reminders on your work calendar or through your phone app to make sure you’re checking at least 6-8x/day.

I can only speak for me, but having T1 has made me very in touch with my mortality since a young age. I don’t walk around waiting to die or anything, but I’m much more acutely aware than other people my age that I will die someday, and I think that makes me a more reflective person.

Good advice from others to make sure to get some exercise and distraction to help clear your head a bit. Time heals all wounds, but you will always miss her.

sorry about your Mom. I lost my Dad years ago and I still feel very lost in this world without him, time has not softened this at all.

every loss tends to bring up every other loss we have experienced in life, so since we experienced this loss of health, some of us at a very early age, it can tend to make us more sensitive.

Thank you so much, gblands, angivan, and Joe. It was great to log in today and read your wonderfully thoughtful messages. :slight_smile:

gblands: I was diagnosed almost 5 years ago when I was a month shy of 57! Yes, I’m a LADA, someone who acquires Type 1 as an adult. I haven’t had the lifetime experience that many others of you have, but my diabetes has been pretty well controlled until losing Mom in late September. Since then, I’ve spent much much more time in the 200’s.

angivan: I wear a CGM 24/7 so there’s no need for multiple checks during the day. (It gets calibrated with a fingerstick twice a day.) I look at it very often, and have set alarms before I get too low or too high.

Joe: Even though it’s only been 7 weeks for me, I can completely understand why you feel the way you do. Mom was a big source of love and support in my life, and now there’s a gaping hole. I’m single. How do I fill that hole? I only hope that in time, I can regain some normalcy to my life.

Thanks for reaching out, you all! xo

We’ll after 33 years being type 1 I have slot of grief. Mad at parents especiall dad he knew type 1 it killed his baby sister. I was not diagnosed for 20 years. Type 1 since birth now I’m 55. Children didn’t matter in 1960. If I was sick too bad. Type ruined my life I have all kinds of devlopmental disabilities. My parents should have gone too jail for child abuse. Their dead now and I’m glad