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I filed this under "Friends & Family" because here, that's what we are. I consider everyone here a friend - you are all part of my diabetes family. Without Juvenation, I'm not quite sure where I would be, but I know I would be a lot less happy :o)

I am posting this in the main forum because I am not allowed to send private messages to people I am not friends with and those who are under 18. It is also my hope that others will see this and add their input. This post is specifically aimed for one person in particular, but I also hope others will see it and respond. It's not my place to name names or point fingers. You know who you are. I hope you take what we have to say to heart.

People lie or make things up for all sorts of reasons - all of which seem logical to them at the time. They may be protecting someone, or something, or even themselves - with the unawareness of who could be lurking on the internet, it seems reasonable to want to protect identity. Hence the reason I go only by the letter C. I like to be able to google my name and find nothing out there about me. Someone may lie out of shame or embarrassment, or the desperate attempt to fit in. There are also those who lie out of cruelty, malice, or other negative intentions.

Whatever the reason, Juvenation is a place for everyone to come without being afraid. Here, we all have something in common that brings us together. Lying has no place. We long to help others and let them know they are not alone. However, if you are not truthful or honest with us, we cannot help you. When you lie, make things up, or copy another person's post and claim it as your own, you hurt no one but yourself. It is hard to gain people's trust when they doubt you are who you say you are. And after awhile, it's hard for even you to keep track of your own little fibs.

Eventually, people catch on. They notice things - little inconsistencies, similarities between your posts and what someone else previously mentioned, odd remarks, or just the strangeness in your inability to talk about yourself. Whoever you are, whatever the reasons that brought you here, we are friends. Be honest with us. Whatever you are dealing with, we can help you move past it. But you have to be honest.

With friendship and family comes trust. With trust comes honesty. Let us see who you really are. Let us help you.

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it's never easy for anyone, eric. the point is that you're willing to try :o) for that, i say thanks. :o)

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i try my  best to do anything.

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Thank you C. That was incredibly well said. I have noticed the same, and haven't had a clue how (or if) to address it. As you pointed out, dishonesty most hurts the individual who is engaging in it. This is a community for those who are either individually going through the challenges of type 1, or are caring for someone who is. We all want to help each other, but when an individual is clearly telling untruths, not only can we not help you, we (I anyway) will tune you out. 

Unlike C, I've never been too concerned about my identity online. I'm not going to give you my social secutity number, but I've made many friends online who I enjoy corresponding with here and more personally on Facebook and such. I put myself out there, especially for young people, because I remember what it was like to be a teenager dealing with the challenges of growing up, and I think I have insights that can help. I know that when I was a teenager I needed my older friends badly to help me struggle through the typical teenage challenges. However, I don't appreciate it when my trusting nature is abused.

I love juvenation. In juvenation I have found a place where I can come and lay out my triumphs and challenges, and those of my daughter, in wading through type 1. I consider the people here friends, and I rely heavily on you sometimes because there's really no one else I can talk to who understands how I feel. Of course my friends try, but until you've lived type 1; the fear, the uncertainty, the confusion on a daily, no hourly, basis, you just don't understand my life. To me this is sort of a sacred place, and the only way it can stay so is if the people who come here are willing to be honest with themselves and with others.

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I'm also very glad this has been brought up. Juvenation has been a pretty large part of my life since my diagnosis and I come here because I know that I can trust my D friends to help me out and listen to my stories. You guys have definitely played a big part even in the way I care for my diabetes, I couldn't be as strong as I am now without you guys.

To be dishonest with us here seems a little bit disrespectful to me. We're not here to show off or hide behind lies, we're here to help one another, listen, and respect.

Thank you C for stepping up and posting this!

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C, I have been posting in online diabetes support groups since July, 2006. I have joined 12 sites and visit 10 of them everyday. I limit myself to 4-6 hours per day so I won't burn out. Lol! I enjoy sharing my experiences and helping when I can.

I have encountered four "Trolls" in the last four years. That name is given to people who make false claims to get our attention, and our sympathy. They usually need professional help. Two of the four trolls I have known were not diabetics at all, but pretended to be so they could get our attention. One of them became a close online "friend" of mine. She and I emailed each other frequently. I never suspected anything. Then she started making ridiculous claims on a website, and she was investigated and found to be telling lies. A post was made that discredited her, and she never posted again. No more emails, no more friend. I was crushed!!! Now I have a hard time trusting people who want to become close online friends. Maybe it is her, using another identity???

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me i like  juvenation Because i can talk to ppl who are going  through the samething im going  through for type 1 i like facebook Because i can do the samething to talk to ppl with type 1 & friends & i try my best to be honesty & not lie but im just 15 so im still learning & guys i like comeing on here i try my best to get on here.

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thanks i try my best not to lie but i just 15 so im still learning right & wrong & Every thing.

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Hey Eric I just wanted to say, it takes a lot you know!!!! LOL To admit to your mistakes. I feel you just took a big step to being an adult.

And C what can I say except,  You're good and I think you'll do great in your career!!!!!!

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i know i dont like to admit my mistakes but i do.

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i know i dont like to admit my mistakes but i do.

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Nobody likes admitting mistakes. But as somebody who's been around awhile, I know this "You learn more from mistakes than anything else!" If you don't learn from your mistakes your lost!!! I still remember 15 and I was and still am a geek!!!! ROFLMAO!!!!!

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me im the popular jocky preppy group type so like everone at my school them  think im the one who have no problems or anything.

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me im the popular jocky preppy group type so like everone at my school them  think im the one who have no problems or anything.

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I was the one who on really hard tests,  threw the grading curve off and made most everyone else fail. People were not to happy with that. LOL

 

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Don't do what I did and waste natural talent. I went to school in the 1970's and got involved with drugs. It took being dx'ed type 1 before I got straight and that was at 52! As a freshman the track and field coach, watched me kick ass on his team. He told me all I had to do was get passing grades, come to practice and I would have a place on the varsity team. I was also told I was on the border of genius. And all I did with this was party!!!

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im the one who will do anything to make ppl i dont like fail & by telling the teacher that them chat off of my tests i will do anything for a good grade.

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im the one who will do anything to make ppl i dont like fail & by telling the teacher that them chat off of my tests i will do anything for a good grade.

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Question???? Why??? This will not make you a better person. Just curious do you know Karma????

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well After my mom told me that what i was doing was ok by her i stop i just try my best to get good or ok grades that was old me now since i have diabetes i changed & my mom is like my role model.

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Good for you!!!! I feel you'll do good.

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well i can say diabetes have changed me in a lot of ways but im still the popular jocky preppy group type.

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well i can say diabetes have changed me in a lot of ways but im still the popular jocky preppy group type.

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Die sporto and rah rah. Just kidding that's what we called jocks and cheerleaders. LOL I am happy to have you as my friend!!!!

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ppl at my school just call us the popular group or the popilar kids & thanks.