SG,
I know exactly how you feel because I am just like you. A planner. But, not everything during pregnancy goes as planned. Take it one day at a time.
I am currently going into my 31st week of my first pregnancy and in the beginning like you I was stressing out about any highs I was having. I actually had an a1c of 8.9 at the time of conception. Not the recommended 6.5 or lower!!
What I can tell you is that you should check more often it helped me tremendously. I check every two hours and correct anything higher than 120. Especially after eating.
Now, I would say you probably should ask your doctor about adjusting your insulin doses. Probably because you are stressing out like crazy you are getting stubborn highs. Just as if you weren't pregnant. Many people that I know who were pregnant with D, told me they had a lot of lows in the first trimester but for me that was not the case. I had some lows but, nothing like what they said. I ran in the 100's most of the time and my first three month a1c was 6.1. Not too shabby from an 8.9.
I also had a bad couple of months with morning sickness. It started in the 8th week and went until about week 19. The put me on something called Zofran which was like a miracle drug for me.
Once I was able to hold food and water down. I just kept to eating the same kind of things based on what my nutritionist told me to eat as well.
Breakfast: Whole wheat toast with peanut butter 36 carbs
Lunch: Salad with chickpeas, carrots, cucumbers, chicken or some other kind of salad type items. low fat dressing 45 carbs
Chicken salad on whole wheat 36 carbs
Soup 24 carbs
Rice cakes for snack
Dinner: Chicken or meat, veggies, counted rice 45 carbs or some kind of starch that would add up to 45 carbs
Snack: popcorn, snack mix type thing, low fat string cheese 15-30 carbs
I also buy ensure drinks when I am on the go, the ones I get are either 40 or 50 carbs. Strawberry and Vanilla flavor and they give you added nutrients.
I just try to stick to low fat, and a similar type of diet and my a1c's have been in the low to mid 6's the entire time.
I would definitely suggest going to a dietician or nutritionist they can help you with foods that won't spike your blood sugars. Because I write it all down, I know which foods that don't spike me so I just stay away from them. Keep a food log it definitely helps you and your diabetes team to see patterns. But, if you are noticing foods that are tending to spike your blood sugar at the two hour mark those are the foods I would stay away from.
It's all trial and error. If you see a high try not to freak out (I know that is really hard to do), just correct it and move on. It really is all you can do at this point. The more stressed out you get, the worse it is. No good for you or baby!
Also, try to exercise if your doctor gives you the thumbs up. Light walking or there are some pregnancy dvds you can purchase also. It will help you with your blood sugars as well as keep you calm too!
STAY CALM, listen to some music, take a walk! It helps!!
If you need anything you can email me anytime at gina@juvenation.org